The Connie Chronicles

                                                           

Connie Manning as a mother of an Autistic who has her own page. It's an autism warrior mom page. She silences autistic voices. She invalidates self diagnosis. She works with the NCSA and ADW. Here is a timeline on what happened.    

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Asking for Autistic Voices and Deleting

How it all Started: 

On June 15, Connie Manning, an allistic (not autistic) mother of an autistic had made this post about self diagnosis. I was made aware of this by a follower private messaging my Facebook page and telling me their concerns. 

She goes on to say that self diagnosis is not valid and gives reasons why. I am not self diagnosed BUT who am I to judge who does not have access to a proper evaluation? I can tell you that most self diagnosed autistics, if they had access to an evaluation, would seek it. She may have universal healthcare BUT its almost trying to use Medicaid to obtain a diagnosis. If I did not have a 30 page report from my ADHD evaluation, it would have been impossible. 

She also states that the #actuallyautistic movement is dangerous. I have seen some good and bad with it, like any movement but we have caused some real change. Grouping a group of people and describing them a certain way is dangerous. That’s generalizing. 

Yes there are some autistic people who hate parents but there are some of us who want to educate to make the world a better place for autistic children growing up. She states that the autistics that are dangerous are self diagnosed

{Image discription:
I have hid the profile of the author of this post,

to protect her from further bullying.

This was a post by an intelligent, kind, autistic

Mom, whose son is also autistic, non-verbal.

The rest of this will be My opinion only:

THIS is why the hashtag #ActuallyAutistic is

dangerous to the autism community at large.

It is my opinion that most who use it, and are

self-diagnosed don't actually have autism, but

use it as a platform for many other things, be it

political, societal, intellectual or otherwise.

Personally, when I see a group of people who

use the hashtag #actuallyautistic and spew

hate for everyone around them, from doctors to}


{Personally, when I see a group of people who

use the hashtag #actuallyautistic and spew

hate for everyone around them, from doctors to

educators and especially to parents, I have a

really hard time believing they truly are on the

spectrum.

Why?

Because for one, my son is autistic. While I'm

not, Ive had 23 years of living with someone

who displays autistic traits, daily.

Another reason is that I work in the autism

community, and as such, have plenty of

experience with all ranges of autism from

nonverbal to highly academic, within our own

organization and within our customer family.

While Everyone is unique on the spectrum, I

can confidently say that there is one quality

that weaves its thread throughout everyone on

the spectrum and that is 'purity!}


{A recent example I will give, is when I offered a

comment that was of a different opinion that

the author, who claims to be #ActuallyAutistic.

Since then, I've had hate mail, threats to my

business, had a slogan made up and shared by

the community called 'Connie Is A CxxT....and

that is just a bit of it.

These people are bullies, and have their own

agenda, and use autism as an excuse to be

jerks.

To me, that isn't autism at all....

A perfect situation would be if everyone were

open minded. If everyone listened to another's

opinion, and valued their input. If real

discussions could be made without bias, so

that future autistics aren't having to go to battle

every time they have an opinion that is

different from #actuallyautistics}



{There is something ethereal about autism.

In my years of working with autistics at every

end of the spectrum, I've yet to meet one who

is spiteful, or uses hate mongering to further

their cause.

They also don't have a 'poor me' mentality....

They are fighters, like my son.

They are caring, like my son.

They are peaceful, respectful of all life and

differences, like my son.

There is a dangerous 'movement', I'll go ahead

and call it, of #ActuallyAutistics who have

decided on their own they have autism and that

no one else should have any input but them.

Most of them may very well have autism, but

it's been my experience that many 'actually

don't, and it's these ones that are giving autism

a very bad name.}

{different from #actuallyautistics

I believe #realautistics voices are being

drowned out by self-diagnosed individuals with

big chips on their shoulders who finally found

something to use to be heard - at the expense

of the autism community.

Hey #ActuallyAutistics - Community doesn't

mean just one group of people.

It takes autistics, parents of autistics, siblings

of autistics, extended family of autistics,

teachers of autistics, doctors of autistics,

therapists of autistics, employers of autistics

to join together, learn about each other and

pave a way for a better future for autistics.

It shouldn't mean hate-mongering for anyone

who isn't you.}



{A recent example I will give, is when I offered a

comment that was of a different opinion that

the author, who claims to be #ActuallyAutistic.

Since then, I've had hate mail, threats to my

business, had a slogan made up and shared by

the community called 'Connie Is A CxxT....and

that is just a bit of it.

These people are bullies, and have their own

agenda, and use autism as an excuse to be

jerks.

To me, that isn't autism at all....

A perfect situation would be if everyone were

open minded. If everyone listened to another's}

{I believe #realautistics voices are being

drowned out by self-diagnosed individuals with

big chips on their shoulders who finally found

something to use to be heard - at the expense

of the autism community.

Hey #ActuallyAutistics - Community doesn't

mean just one group of people.

It takes autistics, parents of autistics, siblings

of autistics, extended family of autistics,

teachers of autistics, doctors of autistics,

therapists of autistics, employers of autistics

to join together, learn about each other and

pave a way for a better future for autistics.

It shouldn't mean hate-mongering for anyone}




{Connie Manning

https://medium.com/@guy.t/you-and

-i-are-not-the-same-autism-and-self

-diagnosis-8bbc587f2e7d

MEDIUM.COM

You and I are not the same

(Autism and self-diagnosi...

4h Like Reply

Author

Not your Neuro-Typical Family

Connie Manning bye Connie

Just now

Like Reply}

{Connie Manning

http://autismjabberwocky.blogspot

.com/2012/10/whats-wrong-with

-diagnosing yourself.html?m=1

AUTISMJABBERWOCKY BLOGSPOT.CO

What's Wrong With

Diagnosing Yourself with Aut...

3h Like Reply

Ro Carlson

Are you professionally or self

diagnosed as NT?

2h Like Reply

Connie Manning

Ro Carlson professionally

diagnosed as not NT.

2h Like Reply

Ro Carlson

Connie Manning do you feel

confident in the diagnosis?

If so, is it because the description

of the diagnosis accurately

describes your lived experience?

12m Like Reply

Author

Conversations With Chevy

Ro Carlson yes I'm very confident

in the diagnosis, and yes it does.

Am Like Reply

Ro Carlson

Conversations With Chevy

That's great!

Ok so when we find the

description that describes our

lived experience - why is that so

different?}


Connie Manning

Once again, twist my words to fit your

agenda.

It's ok, I'm getting used to it.

Just now Like Reply Message}




The Boycott List 

After this situation, I did add the page to my boycott list using the screen shots of what happened. The purpose of that list is to prevent autistics from being triggered by traumatic content. I state facts, that’s it. I am very objective. 

She didn’t like that and made a post to her page. It’s fine, that’s her right. She was trying to rally people together to report my list on my own website. Good luck with that. We can’t even get MMS peddlers websites shut down. 


{Image description: link Facebook post on Conversations with chey:

Conversations With Chevy

Sep 2:

Here it is.. use your own discretion, but in my opinion,

most of these are great to follow.

HONESTLY, everyone on this list should ban together

and report this.

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Jierceautie.com

FIERCEAUTIE.COM

Autistic Internet Boycott List

Youtube I have included descriptions on what happened wi...}




Asking for Autistic Voices and Deleting them: 

I had ignored her and just tell people about her who ask. A few days ago, there was a post by Conversations with Chevy. To someone who does not know her history it sounds genuine. She is clearly playing the victim. When Autistic people gave their opinions, she deleted the post and reposted. When you delete the post, the comments and reactions are deleted too. 




{❤️ Took down original. Too much hate. Not taking this one down, but no negative comments please. You bet your ass I’ll be tone-policing... now. I won’t be bullied into taking it down altogether, but You don’t get to use MY platform for hate... start your own. 😆 Sincere apologies to those who shared original with the best of intentions - please share again. ❤️ And to those who shared it to fuel hate ...oh DARN. 😉}


{Dear #ActuallyAutistic

When a parent of an autistic child comes to you with questions,

trying to understand her little one's behaviour and needs, they are

not looking for lessons on 'person first language' and how the puzzle

piece is 'wrong'.

They are looking for genuine help and guidance from the the utmost

experts.

Remember what autism advocacy is really about, because this is

your opportunity to truly make a difference. They NEED you.

To dismiss a parent abruptly, because they haven't followed your

'rules' doesn't help them, doesn't help their child, and certainly

doesn't advance autism awareness in any way.

It's ok to educate on the things that are important to you, but don't

shun or berate a parent because they 'get it wrong'.

Trust me, they want to get it right'.

Conversations

With

Chery

Let's work together, not against.

We all want the same thing.}



Connected with NCSA

Connie's good friend Nazreem Bibi recently wrote a blog about how "autism moms are being marginalized" for NCSA. (rebuttal coming soon) Together they are speaking out against self diagnosed autistics. This is ableist, classist and racist. 

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Connie Manning @conniem... Oct 14

#Autism Awareness #autistic #autism

you

If

you

want to learn about

autism, ask an autistic,

If want to learn about

autism, ask an autism parent,

If you want to learn about

autism, ask a professional,

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you

want to learn about

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Nazreen Bibi @NazreenBibi1 Oct 14

I am single and o my goodness I am so ready

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{Nazreen Bibi @NazreenBibilOct 14

Wow this lady is loud and clear!! Good on

you @conniemanning44

Connie Manning @connie... Oct 14

Real autistics who have been through the

rigorous process of diagnostics,

communication therapies, appts, speech

therapies,OTs etc should NEVER be told

by an internet self diagnosed asshole

what they can and can't say about their

autism.

Show this thread

#actuautistic (crossed out)

#diagnosedautistic}


{Thomas Clements 9 Retweeted

Connie Manning @conniemanning44 · 15h

From authentic_autism_advocacy (IG) #autism #Autism Awareness

I agree, that the severe end of the spectrum is completely forgotten about

by #ActuallyAutistic

#ActuallyAutistic's

incessant harping over

trivial matters diminishes

and undermines real lived

experience of autism.}



Connection With a company

After much research, we found she is connected to a company called CalmWear.

 She claims to be the CEO but she was just a contractor. I did this research before I made this discovery


Calmwear Global is an Australian company that sells compression clothing to help with sensory issues. She has been promoting it on her Facebook page and there is nothing wrong with that. She does control the social media accounts for CalmWear.  She was not forthcoming about her position with the company. She made it seem like she runs it.  





Calmwear has two complaints through the Better Business Bureau. One is visible on the site. 



In the complaint it shows that the consumer has dealt directly with Connie. 

{Initial Business Response /* (1000, 5, 2019/07/02) */ Contact Name and Title: Connie M****** Director Contact Phone: ************ Contact Email: ******************* We have always been, and still}


Connie was threatening an autistic advocate if they talk badly about the company at all, they would be sued. This violates freedom of speech. If its true, its not libel. This is especially interesting as there is no Business license outside of Australia. 

{+ Parenting Through The Fog Messages

Hi there - you can attack

me, but not a company.

That involves a law suit.

6 hours ago

Thanks for the message!

Please be advised that the

page manager app on my

phone works intermittently at

best. My chronic health issues

make it difficult to keep up with

messages and replies to

everyone, as well. I do my best

to respond when I can! Much

love!

6 hours ago

https://www.washingtonpo

st.com/news/true-

crime/wp/2017/08/01/

they-trashed-their-wedding-

photographer-over-a-125-

fee-so-a-jury-told-them-to-

pay-her-1-million/?

outputType=amp

WASHINGTONPOST.COM

They trashed their wedding

photographer over a $125 fee, so a...

6 hours ago · Seen 10:10 AM

You cannot reply to this conversation.}




After much research, I found that they operate in 4 different counties. Canada, US, UK and Australia. They only have a business license in Australia. These directories are public if you know where to search for the information. Connie is only responsible for North America. 

{Contact Us

USA

616 Corporate Way

#2 Valley Cottage

New York, New York 10989

Phone: 604 996 7484

Email: sales@calmwear.net

Canada

3383 205 Street

Langley BC V2Z 209

Phone: 604 996 7484

Email: sales@calmwear.net

Australia

4/30 Metro Court

Gateshead NSW 2290

Email: sales@calmwear.net

UK

7a Corn Exchange

The Market Place

Swaffham PE37 7AB

Phone: 020 3494 4060

Email: sales@calmwear.net}






The Issue with No Business License:

There are policies and procedures in place to operate a business legally. When someone skips these procedures can lead tp severe consequences to the business. 

If the business operates without a license , it can be forced to close. This means it cannot operate. In some cases, if a license is obtained after the fact, they are free to reopen. This is not always the case. IN some cases, a business may have to wait out a probationary period or a locale can refuse to grant a license. 

Not having a business license is illegal. How severe the infraction is up to the locale. It also depends on the depth of licensing requirements. It depends on the type of business. There may be fines and fees associated with the infraction. 

Not having a license leaves the entity open for lawsuits. If a customer decides they are not pleased with the product or service, they can sue in small claims court. If the business is not licensed, they can go after the owner individually and the plaintiff would be eligible for damages associated to a fraudulent activity. 

IF a business is caught operating without a license, this can cause damage to a company's reputation. If business did not follow procedure to operate legally, they may not follow consumer directives either. 


United States:

The address says they are in NYC. They are not registered for a business license in New York State

{NYS Department of State

Division of Corporations

Informational Message

The information contained in this database is current through Oct 15, 2020.

No business entities were found for Calmwear.

Please refine your search criteria.

To continue please do the following:

Tab to Ok and press the Enter key or Click Ok.}

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Canada

CalmWear does not have a Canadian Business License. There. is no free public search for Ontario but Ontario is in Canada.  

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When expanding an already established foreign business in Canada, each province has their own registration procedures and fees for extra provincial incorporation. Since Connie is in Ontario, this will be used an example. If a non Canadian currently operating in another country, they need to register the company as an extra provincial corporation in that province. 

To be an extra provincial incorporation, an Agent for Service, or an individual 18 years old older who is a resident in Ontario or a corporation having its registered office Ontario. 

 Connection with a Company that Plagiarizes Autistics


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The founder of CalmWear is also the founder of JetProof. Both Companies are under the parent company of  INDASUN PTD LMT. There is not any information on the parent company that can be found on Google. The parent company was registered in the year 2000. 

She named JettProof after her son Jett:

"I founded JettProof to improve the daily lives of children and adults living with sensory needs by providing an all day wearable, effective solution. JettProof has the ability to positively transform the lives of children and adults living with Autism, Sensory Processing Disorder, ADHD, Anxiety and other neurological conditions.

JettProof came about when my adorable child, Jett was diagnosed with severe Autism, Global Development Delay and Sensory Processing Disorder at 3 years of age. With up to 14 meltdowns before midday most days, I was desperate to find a product to help Jett stay calm, focused and responsive to language and instructions.

A worldwide search did not locate a suitable garment for special needs children that would gently self-regulate a child and could be worn under normal clothing throughout the day, every day, and for all seasons.

With over 20 years of extensive clothing manufacturing, design, export and marketing background, I decided to provide a solution to help Jett and other families throughout the world. JettProof was created! "





On August 31, JettProof posted this meme. I am assuming the photo is of Jett. 

{"Their success isn't determined by their

challenges

JETT PROOF

I am an adult with Autism.

I cannot read a traditional clock,

do not know multiplications,

and have trouble tying my

shoelaces...

I am also a law school graduate

and hold a corporate job.

The ability to tie your

shoelaces does not

determine your success."}


Why is this important? Edge of the Playground had posted this at an earlier date. its actually a line from their book. 

{I am an autistic adult. I cannot read a

traditional clock, do not know

multiplication, and have trouble tying

my shoes.

Tam a law school graduate and hold

a corporate job.

The ability to tie your shoes does not

determine your success.

edgeoftheplayground.com}



Looks very similar, doesn't it? They changed an autistic author's words to promote their agenda of martyrdom. They did not change it until they were confronted with the autistic community. There were several autistics, myself included, that were banned from the page for telling them they committed plagiarism. They still did not unban any of the autistic people who spoke out. 





Plagurized Again

A good friend of mine who runs the Quirky Stimmy Cool Facebook page was plagiarized by CalmWear directly. Here is the original:




Here is the Stolen Words Used by CalmWear:




As one of the commenters said, stealing from Autistics is not a good look. 

It Continues With the Sia Issue

Sia Created a movie about autistic people without casting an autistic person as the lead. More about it here. Connie had an issue with proper representation. She responded to the actress I admire the most, Marlee Matlin. Marlee Matlin is a symbol of inclusion. I adore her and she inspired me as ayoung Deaf child and Hard of hearing child after surgery. 




Conning could not leave the Deaf community out of this conversation after Marlee came as an ally to the autistic community which made me happy. I adore Marlee Matlin, she is a symbol of inclusion. Connie couldn't have that. The rest of the conversation was quite pathetic but i felt like I had to defend both disability communities that I belong do. Have a read. 









She throws the Deaf community under the bus, accused me of not being autistic, ableist against people with cluster B disorders and accused me of doxxing her (this tweet was removed by twitter after I reported it) when all the info I got was from public sources and his cited here like a good researcher I am. She accuses me of harassing "autism families" by reporting people who abuse their kids with pseudoscience.  I also "ruin it for neurodiversity." Last I checked, I save lives. She is the one running a business without a license. 

I don't owe her my diagnosis, I don't owe her anything. I stopped engaging because I had work to do. I think with her attitude that she bleachers her son but i can't prove it. Its the way she talks to me. They usually have the same attitude and rhetoric. She gives off a bleacher vibe to me. Only time will tell. 

It later came to light that Connie uses Prone restraint on her son. I am trained in it because I used to work for ARC before I even knew I was autistic. It was part of a job but I NEVER had to use it and I am so thankful for that. It is when the person in crisis is placed face down and the legs and arms are pinned. They literally are placed on the floor like that until they "calm down." It is dangerous and has caused death. Even when we had B, I NEVER would think of doing that. 





Connie Impersonates an Anti ND Autistic

It is no secret that Connie hates my boycott list. Its not a "you must stay away." It is more like "visit at your own risk." Mostly martyr moms hate my list than anyone. Autistics have come to me thanking me for it! 

After a big blowup about the list, a new account on instagram popped up. 

Http://www.instagram.com/authentic_autism_advocacy

It was an account where the autistic was named Amanda. Quite. a few advocates had told me about this. Several of my friends and I had a feeling it was Connie but we could not prove it. She spends her time calling out female and AFAB autistics fakers but spent her time pretending to be an autistic when she in fact is not. 








We could not prove it UNTIL NOW. I did not uncover it but THANK YOU to the autistic who did. I was busy with a newborn so I did not have time to dive into it. 










It should have been so obvious with the first name she chose. She has has an obsession with my boycott list. This was a direct attack on me and like usual it backfired. Autistics always see patterns in things. At least she could have changed the phone number and email and maybe we would not have caught you. Leave the fake profiles to the bleacher hunters. 

And yet another fake account by Connie:




Don't you have an illegal business to run and offspring to exploit?

I pray that Chevy finds his community and gets away from her toxicity. 

After She is Exposed, She Still Targets Me

After an unrelated persons stole an edit of mine, posted it on Amazon complete with MY LOGO, I had to apply for a Trademark so this would never happen again. In one group on Facebook someone was looking for actually autistic designs for an acceptance shirt I commented. I had NO IDEA that Connie was in that group until she tagged me on IG. Honestly if she did not tag me, I probably would have never known. Thank you for outting yourself to me. 






Instagram took it down really quickly. I was also told she was on a few of my posts while I was sleeping. Several followers reported those comments and got those removed as well. Thank you. I appreciate you all. 





Connie Uses Quackery on Chevy

After being messaged by @g.e.a.r_insta on instagram with this evidence, I had to look into this quack further! Dr. Sebi is the quack I researched with this instagram user's help. With a newborn, this was very much appreciated. 

the video of Connie admitting she does this to her son:




Joint Hate Campaign Against Me and My Son By Connie and Fiona Oleary

After writing this blog about bed wetting and what to do so its dram free, Fiona says its disturbing and recruited Fiona Oleary. In this blog I describe what can be done to support children who wet their bed without shaming them. I got thanked by autistic parents and even the Neurodivergent Therapy Collective shared it and endorsed this advice. 

We had a welfare check by a deputy we know well. Very nice guy. Saw the kids were in teletherapy (speech and OT) and told us ot have a nice day. 

Next day a DCF worker and a different deputy showed up. This deputy wasn't so nice but the DCF worker is a peach. I really do like him. He saw that my children have refused to clean their rooms. It happens. Nick and I cleaned it up and then they came back. He did some digging and saw past reports were ridiculous things that were not abuse or neglect. He then went to the school and lectured the principal on what neglect and abuse is and not to make these ridiculous calls because it traumatizes the kids. This is especially true for those who are not biologically mine. They do not need to relive their past.  

He then talked to all the older kids about keeping their rooms cleaned. They promised them they would. We were then talking about my advocacy and where this allegation came from. He then asked for all evidence, which I have friends all over the internet who collected it for me, and put it in my file. This way DCF here in Florida can be aware and not let this through again. 

He was mostly upset about the same thing I am:

Valuable resources that could have been used to save a child who was in danger was wasted on us. 

He talked to his supervisor and his supervisor agreed that there was no reason for him to be there and they closed the case. 

I want to thank all the people who have been supportive since this nightmare started. 

All the screenshots and receipts can be found here :


Sources:
https://www.thebalancesmb.com/as-a-non-canadian-how-can-i-open-a-business-in-canada-2948586

www. calmwear.net

canadasbusinessregistries.ca

Http://dos.ny.gov


https://smallbusiness.chron.com/can-happen-open-business-business-license-2461.html

Comments

  1. Canada may have “free healthcare” but if you were missed growing up as a female due to being born before more recent studies you’re still screwed out of a free diagnosis. Once you’re 18 it’s 3-5k for a diagnosis and many still won’t diagnose females or atypical presenting properly.
    Imho should be free still at least until they get to people born in 2030 or 2040 cause by then hopefully it won’t be missed in masking people until they age out.

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    1. The same goes for Australia. It was a 2 year wait for a child in the public system so i paid to get all 4 kids assessed through the private system at $800-$1400 each. Adults in my state still need to wait 2 years through the private system and it cost me $450

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  2. Same in the UK. I waited nearly 20 years trying to get an official diagnosis with someone who was familiar with autism and AFAB people, as well as adult diagnosis, and it cost £1500. And, as most of the "free" psychs have multiyear waiting lists for assessment, and not all areas have people familiar with adult diagnosis, who would dismiss you anyway, there's no guarantee you'd get an effective diagnosis.

    My friend in Australia's husband was referred to one psych who instantly dismissed the idea of autism because he made eye contact, finished school and got married. So they had to pay for a private assessment. And the same goes for ADHD - Australia won't fund medication for adults unless they were diagnosed as a child. Ridiculous.

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  3. This was one of the craziest things I've read in a while. This lady is an Abuser and very ignorant with facts. I lost it at "all Autistics are pure". Even psychologists will tell you that's an Ableist Myth.

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